This is of course not a “fibroid dress”. There’s no such thing as a fibroid dress that I know of; but there are such things as maternity dresses for pregnant women and since the reality for some of us with fibroids is that we can sometimes look pregnant even though we’re not, I figure it’s okay refer to dresses I think might be helpful to wear at those times as fibroid dresses.
The dress shown here is a Bohemian style shift dress with a so-called “regal gold foil print”. Of course style is a personal thing so I’m not suggesting it as something you should wear. I wouldn’t mind having it or a similarly styled dress in my closet though. It looks like this particular dress is for women who wear between a size 16 to a size 34 so I wouldn’t be able to get exactly this dress unless they sell it in other sizes; but I definitely like the style and think it would help hide my fibroids on their more active days.
Like I said in another post, one of the hardest aspects of living with fibroids is not having the freedom I once did to wear whatever I want. I mean, sure I can still wear anything I want and just not care what anyone thinks about the way I look; but I’ve never had that kind of confident personality. I definitely admire women who don’t let the rest of the world dictate to them what they should wear based on their body type. These women love themselves and love their figures even while they don’t have society’s definition of the ideal figure, and that is something to be applauded. I am coming from a place where I spent my whole life obsessed with trying to achieve the ideal. I don’t look for people to blame but certainly in my most impressionable years I learned lessons that were very psychologically damaging. I learned to judge myself based on how it seemed others perceived me and I learned to measure my worth based on how I looked and how my appearance, face and figure, measured up to the ideal standards. While things are not as bad as they used to be, it would be untrue to say that I no longer have a problem with the way I see myself and how I feel about myself based on how I think I look or how I think people perceive me, not just my personality but my appearance.
I could never go out dressed in a way that draws attention to the parts of me with which I am not comfortable. Even before my stomach became impossible to hide, when the fibroids were just beginning to grow and were still small enough that I only had slight evidence of a protrusion, I would dress to conceal the fact that my stomach wasn’t flat. If I wore something that didn’t totally hide my less than perfectly flat stomach I would be self conscious and consequently in a bad mood due to shame and embarrassment for the entire time I was out.
Now that the weather is starting to warm up I am concerned about how I’m going to find clothes that I can wear out and still feel physically and mentally comfortable. The mental part is very important because I tend to make everybody around me uncomfortable when I’m uncomfortable and when they start to react to my bad vibes then I start to get upset with them and my mood gets more foul. In turn their mood gets more foul and everything becomes a big mess all because I’m self conscious and embarrassed about the way I look.
So I need to find clothes that I can wear now that I can’t wear jackets and other outer wear to cover up my fibroid problem. I need clothes that I feel good in and that I look good in to my own eyes. I think I would feel good in the above outfit and I think it would look good on me as well, but of course, I have no money so I can’t exactly buy it; but who knows? I don’t know how much the dress costs. The shoes are $70. The bag $275. The bracelet is $30.